The soul needs love as urgently as the body needs air. In the warmth of love, the soul can be itself. All the possibilities of your human destiny are asleep in your soul. You are here to release and honour these possibilities…..Love is the nature of the soul. When we love and allow our selves to be loved, we begin more and more to inhabit the kingdom of the eternal. Fear changes into courage, emptiness becomes plenitude and distance becomes intimacy…..We do not need to go out to find love, rather we need to be still and let love discover us.” John O’Donohue
We all seek love. Without it we feel a deep emptiness. Our hunger sends us off in all sorts of confused directions, with “false urgency” as John O’Donohue says, seeking to fill, or otherwise not feel, this emptiness. Food, work, cigarettes, alcohol, television, relationships, sex, constant changes, overactive mind…… many games we play and (of course) still we feel unsatiated.
Love is the nature of the soul. Love is what you are.
It is, therefore, when you stop chasing and seeking it outside yourself that you can allow it find you, as O’Donohue says. It’s not that some knight in shining armour will turn up to save you from your sorrows and make you feel complete in every way, like we might have been led to believe in fairytales. Rather, the nature of your soul can finally be revealed.
We do need others to experience love. Yet, the experience of love is within us. All experience is within us. We must feel it within ourselves to experience it. So others help us to experience love within ourselves.
No matter how much love is coming your way, if you are not open to experiencing love in yourself, you cannot feel it.
There must be a softening, a deepening, a stillness to drop into and reveal the nature of the soul that is love.
It’s like a chocolate moelleux desert. As we let the outer layers soften, we discover the delicious oozing chocolate melt in the middle. Without this it just isn’t a moelleux, right?! For me a chocolate moelleux calls for slowing down, devotion, admiration, a tender hand, taking time to feel the textures in my mouth and allow all the sensations to explode within. It’s like it opens my heart in awe and wonder. Time stands still. For a moment I am fulfilled. Fully alive! Is it love, do you think?!!! Haha!
Oops! Sorry, I got distracted and carried away there for a moment just imagining it!!
So why does love hurt so much?
When you peal back the layers to truly reveal this love within you, it can feel enormous, expansive like it is almost too big for the body, ecstatic, and often painful. It can feel so overwhelming to feel so much that you may rush to close it down as quickly as possible. Yes, of course, because it is like dying into the realisation of what you are – love. It is so big, so expansive, so complete, so overwhelming.
There is no identity here, no separation between me and you. Everything melts into love. This is terrifying for the ego or ‘small I’. It connects this to danger. Danger of being hurt. Danger of being destroyed – because indeed it is – so it scrambles to hold on to something again, and closes you down with fear. It blocks the experience of pure love, for a while, or perhaps a long time.
However, the calling of the soul and the nature of the soul is to come home to itself, to its full realisation. It will drive you to distraction and craziness as long as you keep scrambling for other ways to complete yourself.
Until finally, you make the conscious choice, perhaps because there is no other option left, to sit still and let love dis-cover you.
Finally it will crack you open.
Finally you surrender to your true nature. Finally the pain of being cracked open subsides to the most exquisite sense of completeness that you have ever experienced. Finally you are home in the true nature of your soul. This is love.
Now the journey may truly begin.
With love, Georgina x