The one practice that changed my life (Video)

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People often ask me how I have transformed myself and my life to move from feeling shut down and burned out to feeling so vibrantly, joyfully alive and free now. As I was rocking out my house cleaning on this rainy Sunday morning, a song came on that reflected exactly what has been the most important transforming practice in my life. I share it in this short video.

 

Here’s the link to the full song that I mentioned by Miley Cyrus: Hands of Love

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Navigating the Dark

I seem to be apologising a lot lately! My shadow side showing up and getting projected out on to others. Perhaps it’s a quick cutting comment, or an energetic withdrawal and being cold, or more easily being in conflict. Sometimes it’s a sense of inner turmoil and feeling down, with self-doubt and addictive or self-defeating patterns showing up. Bleh! I don’t like when this is going on. I feel my body tense and a bit numb to emotions. I feel my vibrations low. I can sense I’m being protective or defensive. My mind is not trustworthy.

It’s a bit like walking through a bog (very Irish analogy), trying to tip-toe through, yet every so often dropping in up to your knees, or even falling flat on your face in the mud, and then blaming someone else rather than laughing out loud and rolling around in it!

Does any of this resonate for you? I’m hearing it from many people these days.

Navigating the dark, (c) Georgina Peard

Navigating the dark, (c) Georgina Peard

But of course!! Of course it’s so strong right now at the time of the Samhain, as we move into the darkest part of the year. We also had the dark new moon in Scorpio last weekend. Nature is always reflecting in and through us.

There is a blessing here folks! Oh yes! If this is showing up for you now, or whenever it does, it’s because you are being invited to acknowledge and love these shadow parts and the powerful energy they contain. No-one is whole without their shadow integrated.

You can try to fight it, hide it, ignore it, deny it, throw it away, and clean it up, but this will never work. Instead, own your shadow, name it, befriend it, dance with it, harness it and then channel it through the heart.

The dark holds your greatest gifts and power.  

The stronger the energy for you, the stronger the initiation. Congratulations, its means you are ready for this big transformation! This energy locked in the shadow is ready to be revealed. Are you ready to step up and be more of you?

When our shadows show up, it’s so easy to allow negative thoughts take over and feed a self-depracating inner dialogue. Our actions can exaggerate the situation, like not getting enough sleep, always staying busy, over-eating, spending too much time on the internet, or snapping at loved ones.

These thoughts and actions stem from a deep pain – the pain of feeling that, because of these shadow parts, we are bad, fake, and undeserving of good things, like love, community, success and happiness. As a result we choose the safe path in life and not to show up fully or go after what we want (in case we are found out and rejected, abandoned, humiliated etc.).

This is our core unworthiness and, the good news is, we all have it. 

The relief comes when we realise we are all the same, we all hold shame around these shadow parts, and so we step out of the fear of this unworthiness and we dare to face and befriend the shadow.

The extent to which you can take full responsibility and hold strong self-love for yourself when working with shadows, is the gauge of your personal growth and awakening. It’s not that they never show up again.

Navigating your inner landscape, and especially the dark, with love and compassion, humour and humility, is key to your freedom and happiness. 

BRING MORE CONSCIOUSNESS AND LOVE TO YOUR SHADOWS :

  • Make time to be still with yourself. Listen and feel what is really going on for you.
  • Love yourself and the shadow parts, like a mother unconditionally loving a child.
  • Give your shadow a name (mine is Gertrude) and role play with her/them.
  • Acknowledge your deeper pain and your needs.
  • Share your shadows, pain and needs with someone who can love you there.
  • Practice apologising in a way that you take full responsibility for your part.
  • Get more rest and sleep.
  • Take walks in nature on your own and open to her wisdom. Sing, dance, breathe.
  • Get clear on what you have learned.
  • Celebrate your progress.

Thank you
Finally, thank you for doing this work and bringing more consciousness to your shadows. Here I am just touching the surface of this subject, but it is, in my opinion, the most important ‘work’ we can do to transform our lives, our relationships and our communities.

Be gentle with yourself. All healing has its time. The first step is just to love yourself and know that all the way to your core, you are good, all good, and you are loved.

 

Listen deeply
Live courageously
Love fiercely

Georgina x

Fall in Love with your Longing

Longing is what drives you forward. It gives you courage. It fuels your passion. It ensures your innovation and evolution.

Often, however, we confuse it with a story of not having and get lost in the pain and suffering of ‘lack’. We seek quick fixes and ways to numb it out. We project and blame others for not meeting the need of this longing. We rant and rage. We grasp and fall victim.

Yet deep down this exquisite throbbing is a divine blessing, where pain and pleasure and power combine to ignite your life-force energy.

Longing pulls you out of mundane, mediocre existence. It inspires possibility and fuels greatness.

Longing makes you curious. It drives you to seek.

This longing yearns to be felt; felt by you.

What is this longing? Go deeper. And deeper again. Keep asking and go as deep as you can go to feel the true longing in your heart, in your body, in your soul.

Feel the energy, feel the emptiness, without doing anything about it, to fulfil it or numb it out.

Completely surrender, and keep surrendering to the ache of this longing.

Ride the wave of its force and fall in love with its pulse.

Get to know your longing intimately.

Your longing, when it is fully embraced, will set you free!

 

the longing

“For Longing” a poem by John O’Donohue

blessed be the longing that brought you here
and quickens your soul with wonder.

may you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
that disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

may you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
to discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

may the forms of your belonging – in love, creativity, and friendship –
be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

may the one you long for long for you.
may your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

may a secret providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

may your mind inhabit your life with the sureness
with which your body inhabits the world.

may your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

may you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.
may you know the urgency with which God longs for you.

Listen deeply, Live courageously, Love fiercely
Georgina x

Love is the Nature of the Soul. So why then does it hurt so much?

The soul needs love as urgently as the body needs air. In the warmth of love, the soul can be itself. All the possibilities of your human destiny are asleep in your soul. You are here to release and honour these possibilities…..Love is the nature of the soul. When we love and allow our selves to be loved, we begin more and more to inhabit the kingdom of the eternal. Fear changes into courage, emptiness becomes plenitude and distance becomes intimacy…..We do not need to go out to find love, rather we need to be still and let love discover us.” John O’Donohue

We all seek love. Without it we feel a deep emptiness. Our hunger sends us off in all sorts of confused directions, with “false urgency” as John O’Donohue says, seeking to fill, or otherwise not feel, this emptiness. Food, work, cigarettes, alcohol, television, relationships, sex, constant changes, overactive mind…… many games we play and (of course) still we feel unsatiated.

Let love dis-cover you. (c) Georgina Peard

Let love dis-cover you. (c) Georgina Peard

Love is the nature of the soul. Love is what you are.

It is, therefore, when you stop chasing and seeking it outside yourself that you can allow it find you, as O’Donohue says. It’s not that some knight in shining armour will turn up to save you from your sorrows and make you feel complete in every way, like we might have been led to believe in fairytales. Rather, the nature of your soul can finally be revealed.

We do need others to experience love. Yet, the experience of love is within us. All experience is within us. We must feel it within ourselves to experience it. So others help us to experience love within ourselves.

No matter how much love is coming your way, if you are not open to experiencing love in yourself, you cannot feel it.

There must be a softening, a deepening, a stillness to drop into and reveal the nature of the soul that is love. 

It’s like a chocolate moelleux desert. As we let the outer layers soften, we discover the delicious oozing chocolate melt in the middle. Without this it just isn’t a moelleux, right?! For me a chocolate moelleux calls for slowing down, devotion, admiration, a tender hand, taking time to feel the textures in my mouth and allow all the sensations to explode within. It’s like it opens my heart in awe and wonder. Time stands still. For a moment I am fulfilled. Fully alive! Is it love, do you think?!!! Haha!

Oops! Sorry, I got distracted and carried away there for a moment just imagining it!!

So why does love hurt so much?

When you peal back the layers to truly reveal this love within you, it can feel enormous, expansive like it is almost too big for the body, ecstatic, and often painful. It can feel so overwhelming to feel so much that you may rush to close it down as quickly as possible. Yes, of course, because it is like dying into the realisation of what you are – love. It is so big, so expansive, so complete, so overwhelming.

There is no identity here, no separation between me and you. Everything melts into love. This is terrifying for the ego or ‘small I’. It connects this to danger. Danger of being hurt. Danger of being destroyed – because indeed it is – so it scrambles to hold on to something again, and closes you down with fear. It blocks the experience of pure love, for a while, or perhaps a long time.

However, the calling of the soul and the nature of the soul is to come home to itself, to its full realisation. It will drive you to distraction and craziness as long as you keep scrambling for other ways to complete yourself.

Until finally, you make the conscious choice, perhaps because there is no other option left, to sit still and let love dis-cover you.

Finally it will crack you open.

Finally you surrender to your true nature. Finally the pain of being cracked open subsides to the most exquisite sense of completeness that you have ever experienced. Finally you are home in the true nature of your soul. This is love.

Now the journey may truly begin.

 

Remember to:
Listen deeply.

Live courageously.
Love fiercely.

With love, Georgina x

If this is not your intention, then it is not yoga!

Last week in my yoga classes I asked the participants what they understood by ‘Fierce Love’. Words that were shared included, unconditional lovenon-judgementacceptanceunwavering presence, empowering, letting go, allowing, kindness …. and so on. In general there was a feeling of connecting to their core values here.

However, as we discussed more what it meant to embody Fierce Love in everyday life (including for instance, loving a person who seems the most difficult to love, loving even where you are being hurt, and loving yourself even when you feel unloveable), it emerged that most people had no clearly defined and conscious intention or aspiration to love, or learn to love, in this way.

Maybe it was a vague idea mixed up in the whole process of personal development. Maybe it was linked to loving their children, family and significant other. But to love fiercely and unconditionally all people and life, no matter what was coming back, was certainly not a consciously chosen intention for their yoga practice or as their ultimate purpose in life.

I have to admit, call me naïve if you like, but I was stunned!

I wondered, am I a poor teacher? Have I not been able to appropriately share and transmit the values of yoga and spiritual practice?

Very courageously, one woman then shared that she did not think that she knew how or had the capacity to love in that way. Yes, I understand this feeling.

Another commented that receiving such love would mean a big responsibility to let in that love and to give back. And yes, again, I understand this feeling.

Many referred to the difficulty of holding this unconditional love for themselves. I get that too.

Fierce Love touches our core human wounds

I started to realise that, of course, when we talk about fierce love, and what it really means to embody that, we are touching on such deep core human wounds. Wounds like rejection, abandonment, injustice, humiliation and betrayal. The wound of core unworthiness, that “I do not deserve such love”. Wounds that exist within all of us through human conditioning and that cause us to shy away from what is in fact our deepest longing – to be loved and to love unconditionally.

As a result, and because the challenge of learning love is so epic – indeed I believe it is our greatest challenge in this lifetime – we actually lose sight of our longing. We hide it even from ourselves. Perhaps it’s the fear of failing. Perhaps it’s the shame of not knowing how to love in that way, while deep down we ultimately know that we are love and long for love.  Fear of uncovering our vulnerability.

How normal and understandable it all is, too, when most of us have never really experienced pure unconditional love. How could we emulate it if we have never received it? Perhaps divine or universal love is the closest we can get to it but the human love, though perhaps not intentionally, is mostly marred with messy attachments, judgements and conditions. We have learnt to fear loving too much in case we get hurt.

My Personal Commitment

In that moment, I realised, even deeper in my heart, how important this work is. I re-committed to making this my life purpose, to learn to love fiercely and to find ways to help all of us explore together what it means, what it takes and what it feels like to truly embody fierce love in life.

love-is-the-ultimate-and-the-highest-goal-to-which-man-can-aspire-quote-1Ok this is not easy, and I will be the first to stand up and say that this is hugely challenging for me to live out every day. Yet, deep down I know that it is my truth, and all of our ultimate truths, and that we all have the capacity to love fiercely and unconditionally. This is what we are. We have just forgotten.

The Fierce Love Retreat is one such contribution to this commitment, along with all of the Heart Circles I run where we come together to remember and practice.

It’s not about whether we succeed or not. 

It’s not about being successful and achieving some ultimate goal of perfection. It matters more that we have the desire and the will to hold the intention, to try and to persevere.

First of all then, we must aspire to it – we must aspire to remember and reveal the love that we are made of – and choose this as the purpose of our Sadhana – our daily spiritual practice – in whatever form that takes.

I will go as far as to say, that if this is not the purpose of your practice, then it is not yoga!

 

“Listen deeply,
Live courageously,
Love fiercely.”

Love Georgina

 

 

The human heart is never completely born

Though the human body is born complete in one moment, the human heart is never completely born. It is being birthed in every experience of your life. Everything that happens to you has the potential to deepen you. It brings to birth within you new territories of the heart.

What incredibly beautiful words from the Irish poet and philosopher, John O’Donohue, acknowledging the infinite potential and intelligence of the heart.

Why on earth would we limit ourselves or cut off short the depths of such potential? Is it fear, education, not wanting or just not knowing how to feel so much?

We fear what we long for the most. We are inspired by those who dare and we know ourselves better through their expression. Yet alone it can seem insurmountable to go to such depths of the human heart.

Somehow, this incredible human heart keeps knocking on the door of our consciousness, usually through the body, yearning for more and letting us know when we are off course, abandoning our truth. We are guided again and again back home. Thank goodness for that!

Are you listening? Are you ready to unlock your heart intelligence? Are you ready for fierce love?

Listen deeply - Live courageously - Love fiercely. Georgina Peard

Listen deeply – Live courageously – Love fiercely. Georgina Peard


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4-week Introduction to Heart Circle and Conscious Relating
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When we sit together in circle and drop into our hearts, with no other intention but to meet ourselves and each other, something amazing happens. We experience the relief of finally being ourselves with others. This relief unlocks potential, frees up energy and releases innate joy.

Join an experiential group training programme that will introduce you to the key skills of Heart Intelligence – the art of living with meaningful, heartfelt and authentic connection with yourself and others.

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  • get clear on what you want,
  • communicate your needs,
  • build authentic connection with others, and
  • navigate the resistance that holds you back.

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FIERCE LOVE RETREAT

Transforming fear into empowered and embodied love
with Georgina Peard and Niels Madsen
13 – 16 October 2016 (French Jura, near Geneva)

Folks, this is the most powerful and transformative retreat I have proposed yet. Are you ready? The time is now! We desperately need more fierce love in the world!
This is a 3.5-day retreat for men and women who are ready to step into their power and access their own wholehearted truth. It’s for those who refuse to close their hearts or numb out their sensitivity, but rather open up with more courage and compassion to bring their gifts to the world.

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Fierce Love – from fear to empowered love

Fierce Love is believing that everyone, including you, is worthy of love, at all times.

Everyone… is worthy of love… at all times.

In any moment we are either choosing fear or love. Very often it’s an unconscious reaction to life circumstances, based on conditioning, past experiences and wounds.

Fear tends to put us into fight, flight or freeze mode. It creates contraction and tension in the body. There can be resistance, protection, defensiveness, righteousness, projection and judgement. It can be turned inward on yourself or outward onto others or life itself. Fear creates separation and difference.

Love feels open, expansive and spacious in the body. Energy flows freely. There is complete ownership and responsibility for yourself. There’s a sense of “live and let live”, giving others the space to be themselves. There’s a welcoming of life. Love heals through connection, understanding and compassion. It flows through vulnerability and honesty.

Everyone has their own story, their own path and their own challenges. They are doing what they can with what they’ve got, including their inner resources, their pain, their ignorance and their confusion. Even if their actions and words may seem wrong or inflict pain on you or others, can you still hold a place in your heart to love them?

This is Fierce Love.

Fierce Love is staying open in a state of love even when you’re not receiving love back or being give any good reason to love. 

I believe it’s possible to express anger from a place of love. It’s possible to not agree with someone’s actions or perspective, and still hold them in love. It’s possible to be in a state of empowered self-love even when you feel guilt or shame or fear.

I don’t believe it’s easy! But I believe it’s possible.

Fierce Love is a conscious, empowered and embodied state of being, whereby love is unconditional, human and universal. 

Fierce Love means expanding into a full expression of your aliveness. Georgina Peard.

Fierce Love means expanding into a full expression of your aliveness. Georgina Peard.

When I drop deeply into meditation with myself and with life, when everything else is removed, all I find is love. That’s all that remains. That’s all that I am and that we all are. Love.

Love is what we are made of. It’s our true nature. 

I want to know then how to make that real in every day life. If in my deepest core and in my heart of heart’s I know that I am love, and that we are all that, how do we make that our experience of life and each other? How do we hold true to that when it seems that it’s more common to meet fear, our own and others?

I don’t have the perfect answer. I often get it wrong.

My longing, however, is to learn. I want to live my life through love not fear.
I commit myself entirely to learning what it takes to keep choosing love. The conscious ‘want’, I believe, is at least the first step.

It hurts to experience anything else other than love. Whether I create that myself, or experience it in relationship to another person, or witness it in life, it’s painful.

It feels painful and destructive to hold anything else in my body and in my heart. And yet I have done. And yet I do. But my longing is to move away from that. To bring consciousness and awareness to what I am choosing. To work out what is fierce love, to work out what it takes to love fiercely in life.

There’s a part of me that wants to hide away and make my life really safe and comfortable, so that I can’t be hurt. It serves me well quite often to create my own world where I can ride my rainbow unicorn!! And sometimes that place is the only place from which I can continue to fill up on love and bring it out into the world. Yet I realise that at times the hiding away from life’s messiness is fear not love.

It takes fierce perseverance, determination, courage and self-worthiness to keep facing fear and choosing love. This is why I call it fierce love.

Fierce Love is making decisions, speaking the truth, and taking inspired and courageous action that honours your own divinity, your heart, and your goodness.

Can you have your heart broken and yet not close down in fear and protection, not become bitter or vengeful, and not blame or judge? It’s not about accepting or being ok with wrong-doing or any act that is not of love toward you. Rather, it is loving yourself so much that you choose to speak your truth and walk away. You choose to close that door in order to be able to stay in a state of love – open, spacious and free in yourself. You move away while at the same time holding the other person with love and wishing them well.

Life kindly gives us opportunities and situations where it seems difficult to love and where we are tested to dig deeper into the well of love to discover that it is in fact infinite.

Love is the one thing that has no limit.

It can be difficult to love ourselves at times. But not loving yourself is simply a continuation of the fear and violence outside, and therefore allowing it to continue within gives it reason to exist outside.

If we want more love in the world outside we must first start with more love within.

A sensitive heart, like mine, longs for nothing more that to love and be loved. The sensitive heart feels the world deeply. And so those of us who feel deeply are often the first to learn, at a young age, to protect and shut out the tremendous pain and discomfort of this confused reality that has lost touch with love.

Yet we need more sensitive hearts. More wholehearted people, willing to speak out and act from love and for love.

Let’s not allow the fear defeat and kill the love and compassion. Rather, let’s get together to acknowledge and feel stronger in love. Let’s use the messiness and intensity of life, not to build up walls of protection and separation, but rather to bring us together to learn love, grace, adaptability, humility, curiosity, and humour.

I call us to come together to learn what it means to love fiercely. 

So I call together those of us who want this; those of us who have the courage to try and to seek; those of us who know in our hearts that we are good, that we are love and we have a longing to make that manifest in our actions, words, thoughts, in how we live our lives, and in how we relate to others.

I call us together to sit together to learn and practice this together. This is a vulnerable and courageous path for it opens us up. It sheds light on the shadow, the ego and the monkey mind. It sheds light on what’s not working, as well as on the truth that unites us and that pulls us together.

This is a path that is honest, authentic, messy, beautiful, exhilarating. It’s not the easy one. It’s beyond the comfort zone.

For many of us there is no choice, because the only way for us to live in our truth is to live in love, fierce love.


ARE YOU READY TO EXPERIENCE FIERCE LOVE?

Join me and Niels Madsen at the upcoming Fierce Love Retreat. 

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