If this is not your intention, then it is not yoga!

Last week in my yoga classes I asked the participants what they understood by ‘Fierce Love’. Words that were shared included, unconditional lovenon-judgementacceptanceunwavering presence, empowering, letting go, allowing, kindness …. and so on. In general there was a feeling of connecting to their core values here.

However, as we discussed more what it meant to embody Fierce Love in everyday life (including for instance, loving a person who seems the most difficult to love, loving even where you are being hurt, and loving yourself even when you feel unloveable), it emerged that most people had no clearly defined and conscious intention or aspiration to love, or learn to love, in this way.

Maybe it was a vague idea mixed up in the whole process of personal development. Maybe it was linked to loving their children, family and significant other. But to love fiercely and unconditionally all people and life, no matter what was coming back, was certainly not a consciously chosen intention for their yoga practice or as their ultimate purpose in life.

I have to admit, call me naïve if you like, but I was stunned!

I wondered, am I a poor teacher? Have I not been able to appropriately share and transmit the values of yoga and spiritual practice?

Very courageously, one woman then shared that she did not think that she knew how or had the capacity to love in that way. Yes, I understand this feeling.

Another commented that receiving such love would mean a big responsibility to let in that love and to give back. And yes, again, I understand this feeling.

Many referred to the difficulty of holding this unconditional love for themselves. I get that too.

Fierce Love touches our core human wounds

I started to realise that, of course, when we talk about fierce love, and what it really means to embody that, we are touching on such deep core human wounds. Wounds like rejection, abandonment, injustice, humiliation and betrayal. The wound of core unworthiness, that “I do not deserve such love”. Wounds that exist within all of us through human conditioning and that cause us to shy away from what is in fact our deepest longing – to be loved and to love unconditionally.

As a result, and because the challenge of learning love is so epic – indeed I believe it is our greatest challenge in this lifetime – we actually lose sight of our longing. We hide it even from ourselves. Perhaps it’s the fear of failing. Perhaps it’s the shame of not knowing how to love in that way, while deep down we ultimately know that we are love and long for love.  Fear of uncovering our vulnerability.

How normal and understandable it all is, too, when most of us have never really experienced pure unconditional love. How could we emulate it if we have never received it? Perhaps divine or universal love is the closest we can get to it but the human love, though perhaps not intentionally, is mostly marred with messy attachments, judgements and conditions. We have learnt to fear loving too much in case we get hurt.

My Personal Commitment

In that moment, I realised, even deeper in my heart, how important this work is. I re-committed to making this my life purpose, to learn to love fiercely and to find ways to help all of us explore together what it means, what it takes and what it feels like to truly embody fierce love in life.

love-is-the-ultimate-and-the-highest-goal-to-which-man-can-aspire-quote-1Ok this is not easy, and I will be the first to stand up and say that this is hugely challenging for me to live out every day. Yet, deep down I know that it is my truth, and all of our ultimate truths, and that we all have the capacity to love fiercely and unconditionally. This is what we are. We have just forgotten.

The Fierce Love Retreat is one such contribution to this commitment, along with all of the Heart Circles I run where we come together to remember and practice.

It’s not about whether we succeed or not. 

It’s not about being successful and achieving some ultimate goal of perfection. It matters more that we have the desire and the will to hold the intention, to try and to persevere.

First of all then, we must aspire to it – we must aspire to remember and reveal the love that we are made of – and choose this as the purpose of our Sadhana – our daily spiritual practice – in whatever form that takes.

I will go as far as to say, that if this is not the purpose of your practice, then it is not yoga!

 

“Listen deeply,
Live courageously,
Love fiercely.”

Love Georgina

 

 

The human heart is never completely born

Though the human body is born complete in one moment, the human heart is never completely born. It is being birthed in every experience of your life. Everything that happens to you has the potential to deepen you. It brings to birth within you new territories of the heart.

What incredibly beautiful words from the Irish poet and philosopher, John O’Donohue, acknowledging the infinite potential and intelligence of the heart.

Why on earth would we limit ourselves or cut off short the depths of such potential? Is it fear, education, not wanting or just not knowing how to feel so much?

We fear what we long for the most. We are inspired by those who dare and we know ourselves better through their expression. Yet alone it can seem insurmountable to go to such depths of the human heart.

Somehow, this incredible human heart keeps knocking on the door of our consciousness, usually through the body, yearning for more and letting us know when we are off course, abandoning our truth. We are guided again and again back home. Thank goodness for that!

Are you listening? Are you ready to unlock your heart intelligence? Are you ready for fierce love?

Listen deeply - Live courageously - Love fiercely. Georgina Peard

Listen deeply – Live courageously – Love fiercely. Georgina Peard


UNLOCK YOUR HEART INTELLIGENCE

4-week Introduction to Heart Circle and Conscious Relating
starting Monday 19th September 2016

When we sit together in circle and drop into our hearts, with no other intention but to meet ourselves and each other, something amazing happens. We experience the relief of finally being ourselves with others. This relief unlocks potential, frees up energy and releases innate joy.

Join an experiential group training programme that will introduce you to the key skills of Heart Intelligence – the art of living with meaningful, heartfelt and authentic connection with yourself and others.

3 live online video meetings and one full day event in Rolle, Switzerland.

Learn to:

  • effectively tune in to what you are feeling,
  • get clear on what you want,
  • communicate your needs,
  • build authentic connection with others, and
  • navigate the resistance that holds you back.

An uplifting and powerful human experience focusing on your joy and full potential.

Contact me to join a group: georgina.peard@gmail.com

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FIERCE LOVE RETREAT

Transforming fear into empowered and embodied love
with Georgina Peard and Niels Madsen
13 – 16 October 2016 (French Jura, near Geneva)

Folks, this is the most powerful and transformative retreat I have proposed yet. Are you ready? The time is now! We desperately need more fierce love in the world!
This is a 3.5-day retreat for men and women who are ready to step into their power and access their own wholehearted truth. It’s for those who refuse to close their hearts or numb out their sensitivity, but rather open up with more courage and compassion to bring their gifts to the world.

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Interested but got questions? Contact me: georgina.peard@gmail.com

 

Fierce Love – from fear to empowered love

Fierce Love is believing that everyone, including you, is worthy of love, at all times.

Everyone… is worthy of love… at all times.

In any moment we are either choosing fear or love. Very often it’s an unconscious reaction to life circumstances, based on conditioning, past experiences and wounds.

Fear tends to put us into fight, flight or freeze mode. It creates contraction and tension in the body. There can be resistance, protection, defensiveness, righteousness, projection and judgement. It can be turned inward on yourself or outward onto others or life itself. Fear creates separation and difference.

Love feels open, expansive and spacious in the body. Energy flows freely. There is complete ownership and responsibility for yourself. There’s a sense of “live and let live”, giving others the space to be themselves. There’s a welcoming of life. Love heals through connection, understanding and compassion. It flows through vulnerability and honesty.

Everyone has their own story, their own path and their own challenges. They are doing what they can with what they’ve got, including their inner resources, their pain, their ignorance and their confusion. Even if their actions and words may seem wrong or inflict pain on you or others, can you still hold a place in your heart to love them?

This is Fierce Love.

Fierce Love is staying open in a state of love even when you’re not receiving love back or being give any good reason to love. 

I believe it’s possible to express anger from a place of love. It’s possible to not agree with someone’s actions or perspective, and still hold them in love. It’s possible to be in a state of empowered self-love even when you feel guilt or shame or fear.

I don’t believe it’s easy! But I believe it’s possible.

Fierce Love is a conscious, empowered and embodied state of being, whereby love is unconditional, human and universal. 

Fierce Love means expanding into a full expression of your aliveness. Georgina Peard.

Fierce Love means expanding into a full expression of your aliveness. Georgina Peard.

When I drop deeply into meditation with myself and with life, when everything else is removed, all I find is love. That’s all that remains. That’s all that I am and that we all are. Love.

Love is what we are made of. It’s our true nature. 

I want to know then how to make that real in every day life. If in my deepest core and in my heart of heart’s I know that I am love, and that we are all that, how do we make that our experience of life and each other? How do we hold true to that when it seems that it’s more common to meet fear, our own and others?

I don’t have the perfect answer. I often get it wrong.

My longing, however, is to learn. I want to live my life through love not fear.
I commit myself entirely to learning what it takes to keep choosing love. The conscious ‘want’, I believe, is at least the first step.

It hurts to experience anything else other than love. Whether I create that myself, or experience it in relationship to another person, or witness it in life, it’s painful.

It feels painful and destructive to hold anything else in my body and in my heart. And yet I have done. And yet I do. But my longing is to move away from that. To bring consciousness and awareness to what I am choosing. To work out what is fierce love, to work out what it takes to love fiercely in life.

There’s a part of me that wants to hide away and make my life really safe and comfortable, so that I can’t be hurt. It serves me well quite often to create my own world where I can ride my rainbow unicorn!! And sometimes that place is the only place from which I can continue to fill up on love and bring it out into the world. Yet I realise that at times the hiding away from life’s messiness is fear not love.

It takes fierce perseverance, determination, courage and self-worthiness to keep facing fear and choosing love. This is why I call it fierce love.

Fierce Love is making decisions, speaking the truth, and taking inspired and courageous action that honours your own divinity, your heart, and your goodness.

Can you have your heart broken and yet not close down in fear and protection, not become bitter or vengeful, and not blame or judge? It’s not about accepting or being ok with wrong-doing or any act that is not of love toward you. Rather, it is loving yourself so much that you choose to speak your truth and walk away. You choose to close that door in order to be able to stay in a state of love – open, spacious and free in yourself. You move away while at the same time holding the other person with love and wishing them well.

Life kindly gives us opportunities and situations where it seems difficult to love and where we are tested to dig deeper into the well of love to discover that it is in fact infinite.

Love is the one thing that has no limit.

It can be difficult to love ourselves at times. But not loving yourself is simply a continuation of the fear and violence outside, and therefore allowing it to continue within gives it reason to exist outside.

If we want more love in the world outside we must first start with more love within.

A sensitive heart, like mine, longs for nothing more that to love and be loved. The sensitive heart feels the world deeply. And so those of us who feel deeply are often the first to learn, at a young age, to protect and shut out the tremendous pain and discomfort of this confused reality that has lost touch with love.

Yet we need more sensitive hearts. More wholehearted people, willing to speak out and act from love and for love.

Let’s not allow the fear defeat and kill the love and compassion. Rather, let’s get together to acknowledge and feel stronger in love. Let’s use the messiness and intensity of life, not to build up walls of protection and separation, but rather to bring us together to learn love, grace, adaptability, humility, curiosity, and humour.

I call us to come together to learn what it means to love fiercely. 

So I call together those of us who want this; those of us who have the courage to try and to seek; those of us who know in our hearts that we are good, that we are love and we have a longing to make that manifest in our actions, words, thoughts, in how we live our lives, and in how we relate to others.

I call us together to sit together to learn and practice this together. This is a vulnerable and courageous path for it opens us up. It sheds light on the shadow, the ego and the monkey mind. It sheds light on what’s not working, as well as on the truth that unites us and that pulls us together.

This is a path that is honest, authentic, messy, beautiful, exhilarating. It’s not the easy one. It’s beyond the comfort zone.

For many of us there is no choice, because the only way for us to live in our truth is to live in love, fierce love.


ARE YOU READY TO EXPERIENCE FIERCE LOVE?

Join me and Niels Madsen at the upcoming Fierce Love Retreat. 

Book your place: georgina.peard@gmail.com