Fall in Love with your Longing

Longing is what drives you forward. It gives you courage. It fuels your passion. It ensures your innovation and evolution.

Often, however, we confuse it with a story of not having and get lost in the pain and suffering of ‘lack’. We seek quick fixes and ways to numb it out. We project and blame others for not meeting the need of this longing. We rant and rage. We grasp and fall victim.

Yet deep down this exquisite throbbing is a divine blessing, where pain and pleasure and power combine to ignite your life-force energy.

Longing pulls you out of mundane, mediocre existence. It inspires possibility and fuels greatness.

Longing makes you curious. It drives you to seek.

This longing yearns to be felt; felt by you.

What is this longing? Go deeper. And deeper again. Keep asking and go as deep as you can go to feel the true longing in your heart, in your body, in your soul.

Feel the energy, feel the emptiness, without doing anything about it, to fulfil it or numb it out.

Completely surrender, and keep surrendering to the ache of this longing.

Ride the wave of its force and fall in love with its pulse.

Get to know your longing intimately.

Your longing, when it is fully embraced, will set you free!

 

the longing

“For Longing” a poem by John O’Donohue

blessed be the longing that brought you here
and quickens your soul with wonder.

may you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
that disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

may you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
to discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

may the forms of your belonging – in love, creativity, and friendship –
be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

may the one you long for long for you.
may your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

may a secret providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

may your mind inhabit your life with the sureness
with which your body inhabits the world.

may your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

may you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.
may you know the urgency with which God longs for you.

Listen deeply, Live courageously, Love fiercely
Georgina x

Love is the Nature of the Soul. So why then does it hurt so much?

The soul needs love as urgently as the body needs air. In the warmth of love, the soul can be itself. All the possibilities of your human destiny are asleep in your soul. You are here to release and honour these possibilities…..Love is the nature of the soul. When we love and allow our selves to be loved, we begin more and more to inhabit the kingdom of the eternal. Fear changes into courage, emptiness becomes plenitude and distance becomes intimacy…..We do not need to go out to find love, rather we need to be still and let love discover us.” John O’Donohue

We all seek love. Without it we feel a deep emptiness. Our hunger sends us off in all sorts of confused directions, with “false urgency” as John O’Donohue says, seeking to fill, or otherwise not feel, this emptiness. Food, work, cigarettes, alcohol, television, relationships, sex, constant changes, overactive mind…… many games we play and (of course) still we feel unsatiated.

Let love dis-cover you. (c) Georgina Peard

Let love dis-cover you. (c) Georgina Peard

Love is the nature of the soul. Love is what you are.

It is, therefore, when you stop chasing and seeking it outside yourself that you can allow it find you, as O’Donohue says. It’s not that some knight in shining armour will turn up to save you from your sorrows and make you feel complete in every way, like we might have been led to believe in fairytales. Rather, the nature of your soul can finally be revealed.

We do need others to experience love. Yet, the experience of love is within us. All experience is within us. We must feel it within ourselves to experience it. So others help us to experience love within ourselves.

No matter how much love is coming your way, if you are not open to experiencing love in yourself, you cannot feel it.

There must be a softening, a deepening, a stillness to drop into and reveal the nature of the soul that is love. 

It’s like a chocolate moelleux desert. As we let the outer layers soften, we discover the delicious oozing chocolate melt in the middle. Without this it just isn’t a moelleux, right?! For me a chocolate moelleux calls for slowing down, devotion, admiration, a tender hand, taking time to feel the textures in my mouth and allow all the sensations to explode within. It’s like it opens my heart in awe and wonder. Time stands still. For a moment I am fulfilled. Fully alive! Is it love, do you think?!!! Haha!

Oops! Sorry, I got distracted and carried away there for a moment just imagining it!!

So why does love hurt so much?

When you peal back the layers to truly reveal this love within you, it can feel enormous, expansive like it is almost too big for the body, ecstatic, and often painful. It can feel so overwhelming to feel so much that you may rush to close it down as quickly as possible. Yes, of course, because it is like dying into the realisation of what you are – love. It is so big, so expansive, so complete, so overwhelming.

There is no identity here, no separation between me and you. Everything melts into love. This is terrifying for the ego or ‘small I’. It connects this to danger. Danger of being hurt. Danger of being destroyed – because indeed it is – so it scrambles to hold on to something again, and closes you down with fear. It blocks the experience of pure love, for a while, or perhaps a long time.

However, the calling of the soul and the nature of the soul is to come home to itself, to its full realisation. It will drive you to distraction and craziness as long as you keep scrambling for other ways to complete yourself.

Until finally, you make the conscious choice, perhaps because there is no other option left, to sit still and let love dis-cover you.

Finally it will crack you open.

Finally you surrender to your true nature. Finally the pain of being cracked open subsides to the most exquisite sense of completeness that you have ever experienced. Finally you are home in the true nature of your soul. This is love.

Now the journey may truly begin.

 

Remember to:
Listen deeply.

Live courageously.
Love fiercely.

With love, Georgina x

Passing through crazy to come home to wholesome and wholehearted

In my classes and retreats, I often speak to ‘coming home’ to yourself. This is the first essential step in experiencing joy and freedom. To truly live from that place of ‘home’, however, deeply rooted in your authentic self, means to fully embrace all of you, to be wholesome and wholehearted.

We all know the phrase, “Home is where the heart is”. It can certainly mean the time or place where, or the people with whom, we feel a deep, heartfelt connection. It can also mean literally wherever we currently find ourselves, alive and heart beating, conscious and present to all that we are feeling and experiencing. As Jon Kabat-Zinn says, “Wherever you go, there you are”.

But have you ever found yourself feeling torn between two or more possibilities, two decisions, two points of view? If I walk out this door right now my life will be completely different than if I stay put.

Every moment, with every thought, word and action, we are influencing and creating our reality.

We all have the capacity to imagine and experience multiple realities. We can ‘put ourselves in their shoes’ as we say, to get a sense of someone else’s perspective. Even beyond sharing life experiences with another, we have the capacity to empathise with any other human or even animal. That’s awesome (and a bit more of it is generally needed!)

We are many things all at once. In me is child, mother, priestess, seductress, warrior, human, animal, goddess. I am masculine and feminine. I am witch and bitch. I am a lover and hater. I am physical muscles, bones and organs, and I hold the elements of the entire universe within me. I am forty years old and I have lived many lifetimes. I am ignorant and I am wise beyond all knowledge.

To be wholesome, we must remain truthful to our vulnerable complexity. In order to keep our balance, we need to hold the interior and exterior, visible and invisible, known and unknown, temporal and eternal, ancient and new, together. No-one else can undertake this task for you. You are the one and only threshold of an inner world. This wholesomeness is holiness. To be holy is to be natural; to befriend the worlds that come to balance in you.

John O’Donohue, Anam Cara

John O’Donohue continues to write, “Each one of us is doomed and privileged to be an inner artist who carries and shapes a unique world“.

Our ability to shape-shift and imagine and create is extraordinary, confusing and terrifying at the same time. Perhaps it is this that creates so much stress, fear, neurotic behaviour, and, dare I say it, willingness to be strongly conditioned by societal norms. We struggle to make sense and peace with our own complexity. We are terrified that some of that inner madness might make us unloveable or do something bad that would have us rejected.

So when we sit with ourselves and notice and hear and feel our inner world, that can feel kind of crazy at first! As we sit more and more, it can feel even more crazy!

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Taking to time to sit and contemplate the inner landscape. Georgina Peard by CarlosGonzalez Photographie

So I am here to say, it’s ok. It’s even ‘normal’.

Alongside the downright crazy is the imaginative potential to create a new paradigm on earth.

Many of us skim the surface or simply avoid this inner space though. Many of us nourish the parts that we like, and attempt to diminish other parts that appear a bit dark and ugly.

Brené Brown refers to the whole messy process of being human, and that it takes a whole lot of vulnerability and courage and compassion to own all that we are, to show up and be seen, and to live life wholeheartedly.

Wholehearted living, as Brené calls it, is about loving ourselves and embracing all that we are. It’s a process and a choice in each moment.

So first we must dare to come home to ourselves and embrace the magnificent, wild and wonderful inner world with honesty, curiosity and love, as well as a certain lighthearted sense of humour.

Gradually then, we begin to truly rest within ourselves, to feel deeply rooted in our own being, at home in our own soul essence.

From this wholesome and wholehearted place, we may then be truly surprised and delighted by the unique and authentic expression that is born, again and again.

Let’s not fear or shy away from ALL that we are, but rather, as O’Donohue explains it from the Celtic understanding of inner friendship, let’s embrace our “nature, divinity, underworld and human world as one”.

Allow the child in you to delight in such fanciful imagination and limitless possibility.

From a place of wholeness, enjoy creating yourself anew in each moment.

“When we rediscover our childlike nature, we enter into a world of gentle possibility. Consequently, we will find ourselves more frequently at the place of ease, delight and celebration”

John O’Donohue, Anam Cara