This is going to seem blatantly obvious when I say it but it’s just amazing how often most of us don’t make this the number 1 priority.
The number 1 priority for being happy is to WANT to be happy.
The same goes for everything else:
The number 1 priority for love is to want to love and be loved.
The number 1 priority for being healthy is to want to be healthy.
The number 1 priority for __________ is to want to ____________. You fill in the blanks.
It is as simple as that, really!
You’ve gotta choose to be happy. And to do that you have to KNOW that you want it!
You do NOT need to know HOW to get or have or be it.
We love to be complex. (I know I do anyway!) If we want X then we think we need to focus on Y and Z. No, No, No. If you want X then you want X and you focus on X.
Let’s unpack it a little.
1. First, KNOW what you want.
Now this does not mean needing to do an in-depth process of your strengths and personality traits and asking others how they see you, and considering your childhood passions, and what you’d do even if your weren’t paid for it etc. etc. etc. It’s not about finding one life purpose.
I’m talking about a higher (or deeper) level than all that. Do you want to be happy? Do you want to be a great parent? Do you want to be healthy? Do you want to feel wild and free? Do you want to enjoy life?
2. Then, OWN what you want.
The weird thing is that we might work out what we want but then we deny ourselves that want. We don’t think its realistic, or possible, or that we are worthy of it or perhaps even that it is “allowed”. Crikey!! Watch out for the almost instantaneous backlash of “Yes but…..” and “I can’t…..” type thoughts which result in you hiding away the want.
How about just enjoying the fact that you know what you want? Let it be a dream and enjoy daydreaming about it. When you are really connected to something you want, it will feel good as you think about it. If not, then it’s not really what you want and might just be conditioning and someone else’s want.
3. SAY OUT LOUD what you want.
Say it out loud so that you can hear yourself owning this want. Write it down, sing about it in the shower, paint it in colours, make a vision board of it. Dare to share it with someone who wants the best for you. This ain’t about holding you accountable to something. It’s so that you start creating new neural pathways, like new voices in your head that are actually positive and helpful. Make this want so obvious and present in your psyche that it can no longer get stashed under a whole bunch of other daily pressures, habits and to do lists.
4. LET THE UNIVERSE KNOW what you want.
The more energy you put into feeling and dreaming up this want, the more energy gets sent out into the universe to manifest that want. That will start the whole universe in motion to help you out. It’s like some magic fairy kingdom in the sky receiving in a new command, sending them into high alert to shift destiny and deliver you with opportunities where you can keep selecting and focusing on your want. Well, however it might happen, maybe you send it out on a heart’s prayer, with a wink of an eye, on a pebble in a stream or sending the written wish up in flames. And do it regularly. Be conscious of your want daily.
5. BELIEVE you can have what you want
Ok, so this is a biggie. We could get into in-depth psychology here but that’s not the objective. We are staying simple. So if you can, or rather if you DARE, just believe that you can have or be what you want. Now this is simple actually. Because you need to use the same process again. Priority no.1 for believing in what you want is to WANT to believe in what you want. Only you can do it for yourself. Believe also that you having what you want is a good thing for everyone and serves a higher purpose. What you desire in your heart is guiding you wisely to live our your purpose actually.
6. Notice I WANT becomes I AM
At this point notice how it feels in your body, in your mind, in your heart. The very cool and funny thing is that just this knowing and choosing and dreaming up of what you want is more important than ever succeeding in having it. In fact, it’s most often the case that just knowing it and bringing it to clear conscious attention in the now, means you already have it or are experiencing it. It is already here, right now. Or perhaps it helps you suddenly get really clear on what you need to do or say to reach for what you want.
I want to be happy. Oh actually, I am happy because I choose to be happy right here and now.
Be content today with bringing into full consciousness to what it is that you really want, above and beyond everything else. Be content and gleeful in making the WANT a NUMBER 1 PRIORITY in your life and finding ways to anchor it in your mind and heart.
There is of course a fundamental next step, and that is to make every choice from now on based on that which you want. Perhaps we’ll explore that more another day. You may notice anyway, that this just naturally happens because you are clear on the want.
So what is your fundamental want? Are you prepared to share?