10 tips for official Wipe Out Days

There are some days that, no matter what I do to get off to a good start, motivate and empower myself, I am just wiped out. Does this happen to you? I find my mind is dull, my body heavy, and my heart lacking enthusiasm. My to-do list is usually overflowing and I have deadlines looming, but I eventually realise that none of it can be done in this state and I must succumb to the wipe out.

I officially declare a WOD – Wipe Out Day! 

I give Wipe Out Days full reverence and space. Meaning that when this happens, it’s my body calling out for rest and I really need to listen. I make it a sacred practice! It usually means I’ve been pushing too hard for too long.

Letting go to be held. www.georginapeard.com

Letting go to be held. Georgina Peard© http://www.georginapeard.com

So, rather than push myself even more, this is what I do:

1. Do the absolute Must-Do-Today things.
I check on what really has to be done today or the world will end, and I do that. If necessary, I make the phone calls to cancel appointments and delay some things or reduce what can be done. Sometimes this requires courage to request the space and put myself first. Nearly always it works out that the other people involved appreciate the space too! Then I totally let go of everything else that I had thought was essential.

2. Turn everything off
Computers, phones, music – all off. I close curtains and any windows to outside noise. I tune out of the world to tune in to myself. Instant relief and spaciousness arises.

3. Give myself full permission for a WOD
I make sure every thought is positive, spacious and self-loving. There is no guilt or self-doubt. My rest is 100% priority and only this will allow me to get back in full power and motivation mode, and to be useful to anyone else.

A Wipe Out Day is an official self-empowered declaration of self-love.

4. Practice Yoga Nidra
I get myself super comfortable, warm and cosy, with my eyes covered, and I press play on a guided Yoga Nidra recording. On WODs I usually pass out, totally asleep, for most of the recording!! And that is totally ok! This is the quickest way to letting go of the mind and tension, and dropping into deep deep rest. Find my free Yoga Nidra recordings here.

5. Don’t move until I’m ready
I don’t rush the transition out of Nidra at all. I might be dozing in and out of sleep for another hour even, if necessary. I allow myself to be cradled in the comfort of this state of deep rest and ease, still giving myself full permission to be there. I let myself lie there until there is something in me that makes me want to get up. Nothing is more important.

6. Let the mind wander
This is the most important time – the dozing after yoga nidra, in a deep state of rest – as various thoughts and awarenesses come to mind, like a processing of all the mumble jumble of the mind and emotions, in order to make space for clarity. There’s no intention to solve any problems, but often things come clear and creativity arises. I make sure not to allow any self-doubt or depressing thoughts, and keep myself in a space of loving support.

7. Drink lots of water – I usually find I’m dehydrated when I am so tired, and I feel the need to guzzle loads of fresh, clear water.

8. Get into nature
When ready, I go out for an easy stroll in nature. Again no focus on exercise or any particular objective – just wandering and enjoying the sights and sounds and smells. Ideally in a really natural place and barefoot, to reconnect to the earth’s energy. Taking time to just be and receive her loving guidance.

9. Eat really healthy
I make sure I feed myself fresh vegetables and perhaps I make some yummy green juice. My body needs nourishment but not too much food. I keep it light so that digestion is easy. I go for healthy comfort food so that it feels good in every way.

10. Do a happy thing
I offer myself the tender loving care I really need. I do something that nourishes my soul and lifts my spirit. So I might take a bath or call a friend, or read a great book or watch an uplifting film, or lie back with my hips on a cushion and my legs up on a couch, anything that makes me happy and that I might not always take the time for.

11. Set an intention for tomorrow
Finally, I get myself tucked up in bed for a super early night. Before sleeping I focus on my gratitude for this awesome WOD. I then formulate an intention to wake up the next day fully energised and motivated and ready to be super effective.

I find that my WODs give me such a boost and are the most self-empowered and uplifting response possible to my in-the-moment need for rest, love and care. They help me listen deeply to my needs, call back my power, get clear on what is essential, and allow my natural creativity, life force and joy bubble up once again.

Everyone needs a WOD every so often.
So please don’t be afraid to declare a WOD next time you really need it. Consider what you need to do to have an official WOD. Let the family know. Sort out the kids and pets. Do what you need to do and make it happen. Maybe it is just for a few hours but no matter how long it is, give yourself total permission and make it priority. You won’t regret it.

When you let go of what you think is critically important you might just discover what is really essential.

Remember to:
Listen Deeply

Live Courageously
Love Fiercely
with love, Georgina 

 

The ultimate love affair

It all began,
As an unexpected, extraordinary encounter.
Amidst an ordinary reality.
A moment in time that seemed to be timeless.
When boundaries blurred, and limitations evaporated.
My heart awe-struck, exploded-open.
No past identity, none for the future.
Just being, now.

Was it a memory or an awakening?

At first there was the encounter.
Imprinted in cellular memory, it is relived now, again and again.
Wow. Wow. The juices flowing, the heart expanding.
What was before is forgotten.
What was before the before is remembered.
The not-knowing unimportant, the memory so delicious.
I am swept into the journey.

And softly develops the calling.
And gradually comes the yearning. More. More!

My mind does not understand, it grasps for control.
But my body remembers.
My soul knows. My heart knows.
Here I am. Here I am.
For so very long I have been waiting for this.
For so very long I have been waiting for this.
I didn’t know. I couldn’t name it or create it.
But now I do.

More. More. Take me home.

I lay back into the warm, loving embrace.
My body seems to fit naturally.
I feel safe. All tension melts away.
Naked. There is nothing to hide. Every part of me is seen, held, loved.
Every cell in my body. Every part of my existence.

Relief. Tears flow.
Layer upon layer, recent and ancient, peeled away, released, held, healed.
I am soothed. I am loved.

The sense of love is all-consuming.
My body opens. I am penetrated to my deepest core.
Energy expands out in all directions and ripples through my being.
Every cell in my body vibrates.
I am lost. I no longer know what I knew. I no longer am what I was.
I die. I am born. I AM.

The mind jumps in to control the story.
The ego plays games to create havoc.
The power and the flow and the wow disappear.
The ordinary becomes unbearable.
The separation painful.
The searching desperately unsatisfying.
Suddenly, naked and open, unprotected, in an insensitive world.
Fear takes hold.
Yearning to reconnect. The soul seems heavy.

And she calls. And she calls.
Am I prepared to listen?

She calls to be heard. She calls to be felt. She calls to be known.
We sit. We meet. Vulnerably intimate.
With curiosity and compassion, humility and courage.
Nothing is made wrong. Nothing avoided. Nothing sought.

I sit with fear and hear her out until she feels safe to let go her desperate grip.
I acknowledge pain until she feels ready to soften and evolve.
I meet anger face to face and give her free voice.
I meet sadness and allow her to flow and flow. Age-old rivers. Oceans.

And as she flows I remember.
Her flow bursting my heart open with passion and aliveness.
All of life coursing through my veins.
Rivers of memories awakening my cells.
I AM all that I AM. I AM the ALL.

All that I have been yearning for. All that I have been searching for.
Here it is, again. Of course, it was never gone. It was never any different.

Through the joy and elation, the pain and the sadness, the fear and the confusion.
Through the resistance and surrender, the separation and reconnection.
The fire burns stronger, deeper. My heart bursting open.
I feel alive, so alive. And I dance. And I dance.
And I sing. And I sing.
Ancient and present uniting. Divinity and humanity integrating.
Here I AM.

Here it is. Right here.
The ultimate intimate union. The ultimate love affair.

It all began As an unexpected, extraordinary encounter Amidst an ordinary reality A moment in time that seemed to be timeless When boundaries blurred, and limitations evaporated My heart awe-struck, exploded-open No past identity, none for the future Just being, now. Was it a memory or an awakening? At first there was the encounter. Imprinted in cellular memory, it can be relived now, again and again. Wow. Wow. The juices flowing, the heart expanding. What was before is forgotten. What was before the before is remembered. The not-knowing unimportant, the memory so delicious. I am swept into the journey. And softly develops the calling, then the yearning. More. More. My mind does not understand, it grasps for control. But my body remembers. My soul knows. My heart knows. Here I am. Here I am. For so very long I have been waiting for this. For so very long I have been waiting for this. I didn't know. I couldn't name it or create it. But now I do. More. More. Take me home. I lay back into the warm, loving embrace. My body seems to fit naturally. I feel safe. All tension melts away. Naked. There is nothing to hide. Every part of me is seen, held, loved. Every cell in my body. Every part of my existence. Relief. Tears flow. Layer upon layer, recent and ancient, peeled away, released, held, healed. I am soothed. I am loved. The sense of love is all-consuming. My body opens. I am penetrated to my deepest core. Energy expands out in all directions and ripples through my being. Every cell in my body vibrates. I am lost. I no longer know what I knew. I no longer am what I was. I die. I am born. I AM. The mind jumps in to control the story. The ego plays games to create havoc. The power and the flow and the wow disappear. The ordinary becomes unbearable. The separation painful. The searching desperately unsatisfying. Suddenly, naked and open, unprotected, in an insensitive world. Fear takes hold. Yearning to reconnect. The soul seems heavy. And she calls. And she calls. Am I prepared to listen? She calls to be heard. She calls to be felt. She calls to be known. We sit. We meet. With curiosity and compassion, humility and courage. Nothing is made wrong. Nothing avoided. Nothing sought. I sit with fear and hear her out until she lets go her desperate grip. I ride the pain until she feels ready to soften and evolve. I meet anger face to face and give her free voice. I meet sadness and allow her to flow and flow. Age-old rivers. Oceans. And as she flows I remember. Her flow bursting my heart open with passion and aliveness. All of life coursing through my veins. Rivers of memories awakening my cells. I AM all that I AM. All that I have been yearning for. All that I have been searching for. Here it is, again. Of course, it was never gone. It was never any different. Through the pain and the sadness, the fear and the confusion. Through the searching and the separation. The fire burns stronger, deeper. My heart bursting open. I feel alive, so alive. Ancient and present uniting. Divinity and humanity connecting. Here it is. Right here. The ultimate intimate union. The ultimate love affair.

The time to work on ourselves is over

One of the ways we often stumble on the path of awakening is that we get a little consumed in ‘working’ on ourselves, improving ourselves, and ‘processing’ life.

With this personal and spiritual development focus, we sometimes forget that there is nothing to fix or eliminate in us. There is nothing broken or wrong in the first place!

In our desire to become a ‘better’ person, we can tire ourselves out and beat ourselves up over not making enough ‘progress’. We forget that we have already made it! We already have access to all that we are.

The conscious spiritual path is not something separate to daily human living. It is right here, in and amongst the heat of relationships, work and play, with the rainbow of crazy thoughts, emotions and physical sensations. It is the path of learning love.

I love all that I am
Since my training with Andrew Barnes this summer, his words of truth echo in my mind:

“The time to work on ourselves is over.

The time to love ourselves is now.

The time for processing is over.

The time for loving is now.” Andrew Barnes

 

And this week, another beautiful anchoring came from a post by Matt Kahn:

be-your-own-best-friend_1“Instead of trying to silence your mind chatter, simply love the one who wants to chat.

Instead of trying to shift your emotions, just love the one who can’t stop feeling.

Instead of trying to resolve each fear, simply love the one who’s always afraid.

Instead of trying to let things go, just love the one who still holds on.

Instead of trying to not take things personally, simply love the one who makes life personal.

Instead of trying to prove your worth, just love the one who feels worthless, lost, and alone.

Instead of trying to leap forward in evolution, simply love the one who feels left behind.

Instead of having something to prove, just love the one who came here to play.

Instead of bossing yourself around and measuring your progress through spiritual obedience, simply love the one who refuses to listen.

Instead of trying to believe, just love the one in doubt.

Instead of trying whatever you attempt, simply love the one needing permission to be.

Whatever arises, love that. This is the way of an awakening heart.”

LoveYourself Dr Seuss

Loving ourselves is the most natural, important, challenging and powerful practice we have been given. Let’s make it enjoyable. Let’s enjoy the ride!

Love yourself as much as you would wish someone to love you. You deserve it!

Auditions for yourself

 

Just One Resolution

I have just one resolution this new year. This is it:

“To love myself unconditionally.”

This covers it all for me. Yes, it is indeed the practice of a life time. In that case, I reckon, if it hasn’t been THE most important conscious priority of my life before now, then NOW is the time to make it Priority Number One!

The more I truly love and respect myself, the more I follow my heart, the more I radiate, the more I let love in, the more I can serve and the more I truly love and respect others from a place of natural ease, grace and compassion.

I love meTo love and respect myself means to accept all that I am, the light AND the shadow. Only by truly owning and loving these in myself will I learn to accept and love them in others.

To love and respect myself requires me to ensure that my thoughts, words and actions NOURISH and SERVE me and my highest good. This is key!

Have you ever really listened to your own internal silent dialogue? The stuff you tell yourself about who you are and who you are not, and especially about your body? Imagine speaking it out loud! Have you ever caught yourself diminishing yourself and what you can do to others? Someone gives you a compliment and you immediately respond with …”Oh no, I’m useless at that”, or “No no, I hate my body, I’m getting old”.

Unconditional Love, Fierce Love

You see to truly love yourself calls for UNCONDITIONAL love and respect. The kind that opens your heart wide-open. The kind of love that is rare and precious. You may be lucky enough to experience it in relation to another, perhaps a grandparent, your partner or your child. Can you offer that much love to yourself?

To love yourself means to remember, to know and to hold in honour your sacred goodness.

I’m going to repeat that because it is so utterly crucial. To love yourself is to hold in honour that at your core and in all your being you are GOOD. You are special. You are here for a reason. You are important. You are good, through and through.

To love yourself is to love the universe and all its creation, because you are part of that.

To love yourself means to be FIERCE in holding your Self in honour and respect. Anyone that dares to dishonour your sacred heart takes the risk of meeting your fierce, protective fire! Just like the protective mama grizzly bear – no-one messes with her!!

To love yourself means letting go of those thoughts, words and things you do that do not serve and nourish you.


Self-love reflection:

  1. Write down over the next few days a list of the thoughts, the things you regularly say, the things you do, the places you go and the people you see that DO NOT serve or nourish you or hold in honour your highest Self. Do this first and before even starting list number 2. 
  2. Write a list of those things (thoughts, words, actions, people etc) that do NOURISH and SERVE you and your sacred heart.
  3. Make a commitment to let go of those things in list 1 and REPLACE them with those in list 2.
  4. Start thinking, speaking and acting out of fierce, unconditional Self-love. 

Take back your power

As you love yourself you take back your POWER to manifest the life you most desire. You take back your energy so that you may focus and direct it to the people and projects that matter most to you. You take responsibility for your heart and happiness and at the same time you GLOW and radiate and exude an energy that is incredibly attractive, inspiring and empowering for everyone you meet. As such you are actually doing them a great service.


Shine bright – a daily practice:

Here is a little daily practice that helps me to remember to nourish myself.

Imagine a bright, golden, sparkly light surrounding you. This light dims and dulls when you spend time in and being ruled by your head, when you worry, when you make yourself small, when you let your energy get depleted by doing things that you think you should do, and when you have thoughts, words and actions that do not serve and nourish you.

However, with each little thought, word or act of self-love and self-nourishment, aligned with your heart and your innate goodness, this sparkling golden ball of light surrounds you and grows bigger and brighter, touching everyone you encounter and everything you do.


Breathe deeply, smile from within, love yourself and let your light shine!

Let your light shine so brightly that others can see their way out of the dark

And here are some of my favourite practices of self-love:

  • each morning a meditation practice on my innate goodness.
  • each night before I sleep, remembering what I am grateful for, forgiving myself when I forget or diminish my light, and celebrating my Self and my achievements.
  • my green protein breakfast smoothie.
  • a hot bath with a candle in silence.
  • a deep healing massage.
  • free expressive movement, dance and sound.
  • restorative yoga and practicing nothingness.
  • accepting compliments.
  • day-dreaming and visioning.
  • smiling.
  • immersion in nature.
  • asking for hugs and letting in the love.
  • drinking lots of fresh water.
  • a games night and a good laugh with friends.

So what are your daily practices of self-love?

To love yourself is not to be selfish.

To love yourself is the greatest gift you can give to the world.

Take care of You because You are here for good reason!
With love x Georgina 

Eight keys to happiness…… really?

Cheesy title, I know! Are you curious? Is it possible to identify the keys to happiness? Scientists seem to think so. Marketing and sales people certainly like to think they can! The Government of Bhutan is giving it a go. Perhaps the subject is over-worked and yet, isn’t it the quest of every person every day?!

I would say that my whole life is committed to exploring the art of joyful living, which actually goes beyond happiness since I quite enjoy experiencing other emotions too. However, I do seek out ways that allow me to experience happiness as often as possible. Let’s admit, it’s pretty easy to get attached to it!!

So in my personal quest, here are what I, in my humble opinion, consider to be eight keys to (my) happiness*.

1. Community
I truly believe this is number 1, and top priority, even if sometimes we don’t like to admit it. For me, community involves sharing, supporting each other through the good times and the challenges, celebrating together, moving on purpose together, learning from each other, receiving, contributing and giving back. Everyone has their place. Why is it so important for our happiness? It’s in our nature. True community allows us to feel safe, connected and that we belong. From firm roots we can stand to be all of who we are. And ultimately happiness needs to be shared!

happiness-is-when-you-think-what-you-say-and-what-you-do-are-in-harmony2. Following your truth (authenticity)
To follow your truth requires you to be connected to yourself, to be clear on who you are, what you stand for, what you want and what feels right in any given moment. It is to discern between your truth and your conditioning. It is to truly, deeply value yourself and your right to be a happy, healthy you. It is to fully trust your heart and inner guidance, even as you move through limiting beliefs and fears. It is to be authentic in how you show up in life and how you relate to others. To follow your truth is to live on purpose. It allows you to be free and follow your joy. Yep, its a biggy!!

3. Embodied self expression
Happiness is not a theoretical idea. It is a physiological experience, involving hormones! You need to get into your body and feel it. Being the full and authentic expression of yourself through your physical body, energy and emotions supports happiness. For me, for example, this comes through intuitive dance movement and sound, through my sensuality and sexuality, as well as through bringing all of myself into every massage or even every hug. It is daring to explore and reveal and be moved by your magnificent and ever-changing internal landscape. It is being and experiencing all of you.

4.Self nourishment
Healthy food, fresh air, exercise, rest, laughter, a massage, a hot bath, an early night, picking flowers, gardening, painting, singing in the shower, a holiday in the sun, a walk in the park, a yummy chocolate moelleux dessert! Enjoying whatever makes your heart sing. A good dose of self-love every day is a must I reckon. Take responsibility for your happiness.

5. Intimacy
Intimacy is connecting deeply, emotionally, vulnerably to another person. It is about opening your heart to love, letting your guard down, and sharing what you really feel and who you are. It is feeling another person emotionally and energetically, and letting their love in. It’s hugging for 20 seconds or more! Intimacy can be shared without words, but being able to communicate from your heart as well massively enhances intimacy. And again, happiness needs to be shared.

Happiness-Is-Like-A-Kiss

6. Spending time in nature
It nourishes the soul, as well as the body and mind. Tonnes of research (especially my own experiential research of course!) shows that time in nature makes you feel more alive, gives you a sense of vitality, improves your immune system, reduces depression, and activates parts of the brain associated with balance and happiness. As you soak in the negative ions and take a deep breath of fresh air, it seems to put things back into perspective. It brings you home. We are nature after all!

7. Being present – choosing happiness
Feeling your body (physical, emotional, energetic) and focusing your mind (where you put your attention) gets you present. To be present is to be in awe and wonder at what is real right now. It is to live in the question rather than the answer. How could you ever be bored or anxious if you are truly present in every moment? To be present doesn’t guarantee happiness of course. But if you are not present you might miss the happiness! And only if you are present can you choose to be happy, to follow what makes you happy or to be surprised by it! It is only NOW that exists.

8. Time with Self
happiness-is-an-inside-job-11A little bit of time every day to be quiet, tune in and be still in yourself. This is the most important relationship you will ever have. Whether you like it or not, it is for life! It can be an exquisite love relationship that needs to be honoured. Be still within you (so that can be through movement too) and listen. Open with compassion to the learning and guidance. Here is the potential to feel connection to Source or Spirit, something beyond your physical body. I like to honour Spirit by connecting morning and evening, and giving gratitude at the end of every day. It brings me incredible stillness, trust and yep, happiness!

 

So there it is, my reflection on some keys to happiness. Perhaps not the definitive list though I reckon you could fit most things into these eight points, if expanded on further. But of course, please don’t take my truth for granted. What is it that makes you happy? What would you add or remove from this list? I’d love to hear.

Happiness-Is...header * as a caveat – I don’t consider these to be universal and I am focusing on happiness once you have your basic human needs met.