Sacred Feminine: 20 Great Books

IMG_4038

I have promised many of you to put together a reading list for books I recommend related to the Sacred Feminine and what it means to be an educated, conscious, loving and empowered woman in her female body today.

Now this list is quite wide reaching. It includes some easy reads for those touching the subject, and some more intense reads for those of you really committing to the Sacred Feminine path.

There are some Yogic, some Tantric and some Shamanic reads, reflecting mythology, energy and consciousness. There are some that reflect history and science, and some focusing on the physical body, hormones, menstrual cycle and menopause, sexuality and wellbeing.

They are in no specific order really and I’ll admit that I have not managed to read all of these books yet. There are many other books than influence and inspire me as a woman but I don’t categorise as Sacred Feminine. I also don’t have any books focused on sacred pregnancy or mothering in here (reflection of my own interests!)

This is a start. Based on your inputs I’ll be happy to add and improve the list.

So here goes:

  1. The Book of SHE
    Your Heroine’s Journey into the Heart of Feminine Power, by Sara Avant Stover
  2. The Path of the Priestess
    Discover your Divine Purpose, co-authored Rose Cole and others
  3. Woman Code
    Perfect Your Cycle, Amplify Your Fertility, Supercharge your Sex Drive and Become a Power Source, by Alisa Vitti
  4. Goddesses Never Age
    The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality and Wellbeing, by Dr. Christiane Northrup
  5. Pussy – A Reclamation
    by Regina Thomashauer
  6. Vagina – A New Biography
    A new biography, by Naomi Wolf
  7. Awakening Shakti
    The Transformative Power of the Goddesses of Yoga, by Sally Kempton
  8. Womb Wisdom
    Awakening the Creative and Forgotten Powers of the Feminine, by Padma and Anaiya Aon Prakasha
  9. The Power of Shakti
    18 Pathways to Ignite the Energy of the Divine Woman, by Padma Aon Prakasha
  10. Wild Power
    Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the Feminine Path to Power, by Alexandra Pope
  11. Women Who Run With the Wolves
    Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
  12. Kissing the Hag
    The Dark Goddess and the Unacceptable Nature of Women, by Emma Restall Orr
  13. Wild Feminine
    Finding Power, Spirit and Joy in the Female Body, by Tami Lynn Kent
  14. Embodying the Feminine
    Life Lessons and Practices for Awakening Women, by Chameli Armagh
  15. Warrior Goddess Training
    Become the Woman You are Meant to Be, by Heatherash Amara
  16. The Multi-Orgasmic Woman
    How any woman can Experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance Her Sexual Relationship, by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams
  17. Tantric Orgasm for Women
    by Diana Richardson
  18. Dear Lover
    A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss, by David Deida
  19. Dakini Power
    Twelve Extraordinary Women Shaping the Transmission of Tibetan Buddhism in the West, by Michaela Haas
  20. Crossing to Avalon
    A Woman’s Midlife Pilgrimage, by Jean Shined Bolen

 

Agree? Disagree? What are your favourites?
What books have inspired you on the Sacred Feminine? and Why?

Let’s share and improve this List.

I’d love to hear about any french titles/translations too and I’ll put them together in a future post.

 

Happy reading and remember to:

Listen deeply
Live courageously
Love fiercely

With love,
Georgina xxx

Fall in Love with your Longing

Longing is what drives you forward. It gives you courage. It fuels your passion. It ensures your innovation and evolution.

Often, however, we confuse it with a story of not having and get lost in the pain and suffering of ‘lack’. We seek quick fixes and ways to numb it out. We project and blame others for not meeting the need of this longing. We rant and rage. We grasp and fall victim.

Yet deep down this exquisite throbbing is a divine blessing, where pain and pleasure and power combine to ignite your life-force energy.

Longing pulls you out of mundane, mediocre existence. It inspires possibility and fuels greatness.

Longing makes you curious. It drives you to seek.

This longing yearns to be felt; felt by you.

What is this longing? Go deeper. And deeper again. Keep asking and go as deep as you can go to feel the true longing in your heart, in your body, in your soul.

Feel the energy, feel the emptiness, without doing anything about it, to fulfil it or numb it out.

Completely surrender, and keep surrendering to the ache of this longing.

Ride the wave of its force and fall in love with its pulse.

Get to know your longing intimately.

Your longing, when it is fully embraced, will set you free!

 

the longing

“For Longing” a poem by John O’Donohue

blessed be the longing that brought you here
and quickens your soul with wonder.

may you have the courage to listen to the voice of desire
that disturbs you when you have settled for something safe.

may you have the wisdom to enter generously into your own unease
to discover the new direction your longing wants you to take.

may the forms of your belonging – in love, creativity, and friendship –
be equal to the grandeur and the call of your soul.

may the one you long for long for you.
may your dreams gradually reveal the destination of your desire.

may a secret providence guide your thought and nurture your feeling.

may your mind inhabit your life with the sureness
with which your body inhabits the world.

may your heart never be haunted by ghost-structures of old damage.

may you come to accept your longing as divine urgency.
may you know the urgency with which God longs for you.

Listen deeply, Live courageously, Love fiercely
Georgina x

Navigating the shadow

Does it feel like you are rehashing old patterns and tossed around with gloomy thoughts or negativity about yourself or the world? Does it feel like more effort to stay in a state of love and light, even though you thought you were done with those old thought patterns? Are you internalising a lot, feeling tired and wanting to withdraw from the world? Are you noticing more conflicts, internal and/or external?

Fantastic! You are being gifted the opportunity to work with shadow. Here it is. Slam bang in your face! Bleh! Ugh!

The question is, do you say “Yes” to this opportunity?! Are you ready to upgrade to the next level of love? Are you ready to meet it all and welcome it all? The universe thinks you are!

Do you chose fear or love?

The shadow is what we fear. That which we keep in the shadows to avoid it being seen. It’s the “what I don’t want you to know about me”, and even more so, the “what I don’t want to accept about myself”. It is what disgusts you. We often have it so well hidden we don’t even realise it ourselves. I am not judgemental. I am not a jealous bitch. I am not evil.

To be that would be to be unlovable, to be rejected and abandoned. And that would feel like being left to die.

We compensate by emphasising the opposite (e.g. being super nice and always accommodating to others) or avoiding situations that awaken this shadow in our own consciousness or that might show it up.

We tend to internalise harsh and negative dialogue with ourselves and compensate with actions that can be self-harming, like addictions or situations not aligned with our truth. Perhaps it comes out all ugly in a passive aggressive way, projected on to others. The internal battlefield is externalised and you are in battle with the world. We also try to ‘purify’ and rid ourselves of these darker parts through all sorts of cleanses and spiritual practices and exercise and doing good. Or maybe we outright deny and suppress them.

Light and shadow

The fear of the shadow being uncovered, however, and all that you do, often unconsciously, to keep the shadow hidden, is a major driving force in your life.

The good news is that in the shadow lie your greatest strengths. Once owned and channelled through the heart that energy leads to powerful transformation. The release and directing of that energy is absolutely phenomenal. Seriously! I have witnessed and experienced this so many times.

Let’s take some very simple examples to illustrate where shadow = strength when the same energy is channeled consciously through the heart:

  • I am jealous = I am inspired to be a greater version of myself and create a better life
  • I am judgemental = I have a great ability of discernment
  • I am arrogant = I am leader
  • I am cold and lack compassion = I am level-headed and can see the big picture

So I beg of you, please, please stop trying to cleanse or meditate away or exercise away or suppress or get rid of your shadows. You can’t anyway, no matter how much you try. This would be like losing your juice!

Instead, shed light and love on your shadows. Tease them out with understanding and compassion. Create safety for them to be seen. Acknowledge their power and potential. Connect with their energy and give it direction for positive impact.

The exploration of my shadow has become an important regular, and even, dare-I-say, joyful practice for me. Not always easy, I would say that is the most empowering path I have ever taken. And I get to witness it again and again happening for others in my work.

To realise that you are still loveable and perhaps loved even more – you WITH all your shadows and fears and strategies to hide them – is the most liberating experience!!! Suddenly you are free to be and express and create all that you are meant to, and I’m pretty sure that you have something unique and important to share.

Hide and Seek – Catch me if you can!
As I reflected on this topic one early morning last week by the lake Geneva, my attention was drawn to a large tree. Two dark red squirrels were playing hide and seek around the trunk. Each one trying to see and catch the other, they were scampering around this tree with such speed and agility and glee, changing directions, left and right, up and down. I burst out laughing. That’s it! That is my light and shadow parts at play, doing this all the time, it is the constant dance.

So is it like this for you?

“You can’t see me! I’m the shadow!”
says the dark to the light, “You can’t catch me but I’m going to catch up on you and get you – run, run!”

Or is it more like this?

“I am going to see you dark one,” says the light to the dark, “and I’m going to shed all my light and love on you – you can’t hide.” 

Can you just enjoy the game? Can you relax in the dance with the dark partner?Which one is leading in your life right now in any particular situation?
Is it holding you back in some way?
Are you ready to direct that same energy through your heart? 

Now this is a big area to discuss, so in my next blogs I’ll write more about how I like to consciously and joyfully navigate the shadow.

I’d love to hear about your own experiences with this. Please do share your comments. And stay tuned for more.